I have been fascinated by the reactions that people have had to me when I was on maternity leave, when I was getting ready to go back to work, and now that I am back at work. I find that some people are very judgemental about how they expect families to work. Well, I’ve got news for you everyone, we’re all different, we all have different needs and that is one of the amazing things about us.
My aim is to share the stories of families of all different types and spread the word that we are all playing a #BalancingAct to get through and raise our little people the best way we can. Let’s celebrate the diversity between our families, let’s not judge each other.
So this week, I’d like to introduce to R from We3Three.
- Tell me about your family
I’m R, I have been married to A for six years and we have a four year old.
Hubby and I were both full time working for the local council (in different departments)
3. What was you work-life balance like?
We saw plenty of each other and tried to do lots varied stuff in our free time (when we had time!)
4. How did you find being away from work when you were on maternity leave?
Loved being away from work! I’m not a “career” woman so for me I go to work mostly to pay my bills and for treats for my family. I enjoy my job but it I don’t by any means live for my job or miss it when I’m not there.
5. Have you returned to some kind of work since having baby and how did you come to that decision?
Yes I went back to work 17 hours a week when my son was 14 months old. I wanted to go back to work in a way to ‘keep my hand in’ a job and for financial reasons. Hubs dropped a day at work so we were able to juggle childcare between myself, hubby, my mum and my lovely friend who had him for a day a week when I first went back to work.
6. How (if at all) has work changed since you returned?
The work was EXACTLY the same when I returned! I found it really difficult to concentrate at first, couldn’t get in the right frame of mind at all at first. This got easier with time.
7. Describe your work-life balance now in 3 words.
It’s just right!
8. Would you change anything about the family and work balance that you currently have?
No, I think we have the right balance. I am part time and hubs is now freelance on call so we have plenty of time as a family, enough free time, we don’t have to pay for any childcare and we still earn enough to get by each month without compromising on the amount of time together. I love that I can drop my son at school each morning (flexitime!) and be with him at weekends. I wouldn’t have wanted to be a full time stay at home mum and I do not want to work full time so I feel I have been really lucky in the way we have been able to arrange our family/work balance.
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