I have been fascinated by the reactions that people have had to me when I was on maternity leave, when I was getting ready to go back to work, and now that I am back at work. I find that some people are very judgemental about how they expect families to work. Well, I’ve got news for you everyone, we’re all different, we all have different needs and that is one of the amazing things about us.
My aim is to share the stories of families of all different types and spread the word that we are all playing a #BalancingAct to get through and raise our little people the best way we can. Let’s celebrate the diversity between our families, let’s not judge each other.
So, this week is Em from Brummymummyof2, over to you Bab!
1. Tell me about your family
My name is Em and I blog at brummymummyof2 as well as teach secondary school children. I am 36 and live with my Hub, my preschooler daughter and my one year old son. We live in Birmingham along with our dog Lucy and cat Stinky Pete.
2. What was your job/position before you started your family?
I was a Head of RE in a local secondary school.
3. What was your work-life balance like?
I loved my job and found my work-life OK actually. I have always loved teaching and yes I did have to mark and write reports but I enjoyed the day to day of being at school and of course the holidays!
4. How did you find being away from work when you were on maternity/paternity leave?
I loved being on maternity leave and I loved being away from work! As much as I loved my job I did love being with my children a little bit more. Sure there are times when I craved being with adults but I kept in touch by going on the odd staff night out and also taking part in KIT days.
5. Have you returned to some kind of work since having baby and how did you come to that decision?
I returned to work full time as Head of RE after my daughter and I now work as an Upper Pay Scale 2 Teacher, teaching RE and BTEC Health and Social Care in the same school. The first time round it wasn’t an option in the school for me to go part time but after my son I decided to drop down to two days. I admire Mums that work full time and also Mums that are with their kids all the time. But for me I needed a mix of the two and feel I have a nice balance.
6. How (if at all) has work changed since you returned (if you did)?
I am now just a teacher and I have found it really hard to let go and stop being in charge of RE. Sometimes I feel a little bit like people see me as just a Mum or a bit of a skiver but I need to think it is only for a short time and then I will be back at work. I need to make the most of it!
7. Describe your work-life balance now in 3 words.
Juggling Busy Happy
8. Would you change anything about the family and work balance that you currently have?
For this moment in time it works really well for me and who knows what will happen in the future! But for now? This is perfect.
For all the previous posts, see the #BalancingAct page.
If you think you’d like to get involved in this feature and share your story, please leave a comment, tweet me @mamavsteacher or email me email@example.com.