I have been fascinated by the reactions that people have had to me when I was on maternity leave, when I was getting ready to go back to work, and now that I am back at work. I find that some people are very judgemental about how they expect families to work. Well, I’ve got news for you everyone, we’re all different, we all have different needs and that is one of the amazing things about us.
My aim is to share the stories of families of all different types and spread the word that we are all playing a #BalancingAct to get through and raise our little people the best way we can. Let’s celebrate the diversity between our families, let’s not judge each other.
So, this week it’s over to Becky at Fulltimeworkingmummy.
- We are first time and last time parents, Ian and Rebecca to our only son Henry who is 3 years old, we live in Devon and are enjoying the experience of bringing up our child later in life as we are both 43. In fact when I was pregnant I was classed as a geriatric mother throughout my pregnancy, this combined with a number of other factors means we will not be trying for a second child.
- Before I had Henry I was a National Account Manager for a large blue chip company in the automotive industry, I had worked there for 12 years working my way up from area manager to National Account Manager
- My work life balance was extremely poor in this role often working 14-16 hour days as well as writing reports into the evenings and weekends
- I had 14 months off on maternity leave and I found it exhilarating and exciting albeit exhausting at times, it was lovely not to be working.
- I unfortunately had to return to my job as a National Account Manager due to financial reasons, I returned on a 4 day week basis and increased my hours over those 4 days so I only ended up taking a 10% pay cut. It was a truly awful time returning to work and I suffered from panic attacks in the early days, I found that I could not continue in the role due to the very long hours and the fact that I was very often away from home so I changed roles to a Business Development Manager role closer to home, this was on a 5 day week basis, I found being located in an office extremely difficult and handed my notice in after a period of 6 months having got another Key Account Manager role based from home, as my manager really wanted me to stay he offered for me to work from home with Henry in the afternoons so I took him up on this offer!
- Work has changed for me because it no longer is my priority, I do not have the drive I had before I had a baby, I see it as a day job and I want a clear definition between home and work time whilst in the past this was very blurred.
- My work life balance in 3 words would be: Very lucky currently! I am very aware that I am blessed to be able to work from home every afternoon and watch my son develop and grow whilst still holding down and being paid for a full time job.
- Am I happy with my work life balance? No I am not sure I would ever be very happy, I feel when I am at work I should be at home and when I am at home I feel Henry could learn so much more socialising with other children at nursery. I would love to be a stay at home mum but I am not sure that would be right for me or Henry. I have a goal which is to demonstrate that you get nice things if you work hard for them, I want Henry to see me as a role model, it is difficult balancing everything and sometimes I am exhausted at the end of the day but I wouldn’t change anything I don’t think.
- Would I change anything: Yes I would like my 2 boys to get out of bed and hurry up when I am working an early so that I can get on!!!! 🙂
For all the previous posts, see the #BalancingAct page.
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