I have been fascinated by the reactions that people have had to me when I was on maternity leave, when I was getting ready to go back to work, and now that I am back at work. I find that some people are very judgemental about how they expect families to work. Well, I’ve got news for you everyone, we’re all different, we all have different needs and that is one of the amazing things about us.
My aim is to share the stories of families of all different types and spread the word that we are all playing a #BalancingAct to get through and raise our little people the best way we can. Let’s celebrate the diversity between our families, let’s not judge each other.
So this week it’s over to Brea from Brea Getting Fit.
1. Tell me about your family
I married my best friend (no really, we’ve known each other since we were 16, although we didn’t start dating until our mid-twenties), and we have two awesome little boys. My oldest son has a very rare disease called Severe Aplastic Anemia, which means that his bone marrow doesn’t work correctly. He’s currently doing well, but that could change at any time, so we are trying to soak up family time as much as possible.
We love the outdoors, hiking, camping, and beach combing. I gained quite a bit of weight while pregnant with my son, which led me to revive my blog and chronicle my healthy finds and my missteps. I’m certainly not perfect, but I’m okay with that.
2. What was your job/position before you started your family?
I was a paralegal, actually! I have my bachelors degree in Legal Studies, and was considering law school when we found out we were pregnant. I knew that I couldn’t devote the time, and found that I loved the writing portion of the job (most attorneys don’t do all of their drafting, it’s approved and/or edited by them, but drafts are the paralegal’s job), followed by research.
3. What was your work-life balance like?
Well, I keep a daily schedule because I work from home. In addition to my blog, I also work as a Virtual Assistant. I put absolutely everything in my calendar-work time and play time. If I’m not careful, I will work around the clock. I went through about a month where I realized I had not properly spent a whole day with my boys because of my workload, so I drastically cut back. Now, my work-life balance is pretty great!
4. How did you find being away from work when you were on maternity leave?
I actually called my boss and informed him that I was not coming back. I was put on bedrest at 36 weeks with my first, and when he was born, I would have had to be back at work in 3 weeks. I just couldn’t stand to part with him, so I started working as a virtual assistant instead. I guess I really didn’t have maternity leave!
5. Have you returned to some kind of work since having baby and how did you come to that decision?
We needed my income initially, but as I’ve found work I love, I look forward to working. It’s a bit odd, I think, that I love my job and don’t want to give it up.
6. How (if at all) has work changed since you returned (if you did)?
I’m definitely working far less hours with two boys than one, and I no longer work during naps because I have my older son to watch-and that’s just a slippery slope that I need to avoid. So I work when they’re in bed, which means some late nights.
7. Describe your work-life balance now in 3 words.
It’s good now.
8. This might be difficult to answer, but are you happy with your work-life balance?
Yes and no. I wish I could work more, but then I wonder why. I enjoy my jobs, and I love being able to be home with my boys.
9. Would you change anything about the family and work balance that you currently have?
Can I hire a maid??
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